Content Warning: Themes of abuse, trauma
When coercion looks like care and
Like this is best
agreed to this
asked for it
To constantly be told
don’t know what’s best
To be constantly persuaded that
your instinct is wrong..
Deride your reality
How could you possibly be more than just a pathologically inept and broken body
There for the taking?
And between the lines
This life isn’t a fairytale.
There is no better.
Sound familiar? I’m actually writing about maternity care and at the same time, I’m not.
Coercion is “the action or practice of persuading someone to do something by using force or threats.”.
I’m not implying the entire maternity system and its practitioners are shit – many people have an excellent experience – but it must be acknowledged that coercion plays a big role in everyday maternity conversations.
So everyday and expected that this bullying often flies under the radar and we (our culture) prop up this idea that it’s uncouth, ungrateful, ignorant or foolish to assert autonomy over ones own body and life, rather doing what a doctor, nurse or midwife says.
Guess what? It’s not.
To quote @thefeministmidwife “‘No’ is a complete sentence in all settings, including in healthcare.”